Things That Need To Stay In 2017
We are counting down the last few hours we have left of 2017. This year was full of highs and lows. Some of us will be taking everything we have learned this year in 2017 to make 2018 extraordinary.
Unfortunately, there are some things that need to be left in 2017. Everything wasn’t glitter and gold this year. When you look back on your relationships are you happy? Did you have a bad breakup? What things could have prevented the breakup or was it for the best? There a few things we are doing to keep us from living our best lives in our relationships.
Let’s countdown on what needs to stay in 2017.
Settling For Less– You know what you want in a man. You know the qualities you need your man to have that will make him the love of your life. So why do so many of us decide to mark those qualities off the list and get a man who is nothing we ever wanted? Dating can be up a hill battle sometimes, and it is often we get frustrated and tolerate what we don’t like just to have a guy around. Fear of being single and alone is the reason why women settle for less than they deserve in relationships. If you know you want children and he doesn’t; let him go. He continuously cheats; tell him to kick rocks. Doesn’t take care of his responsibilities, bye! Doesn’t make you feel like you are the only woman he needs; hold the door open for him. We have to come to the realization it is okay to put your happiness first.
The Rise of The Sidechicks– Seems to be everywhere you looked, side chicks were somehow winning. These women were out for the hunt. Get the guy who is a celebrity and blast him on social media to get famous or at least six seconds of fame! If this is their only claim they don’t have much to offer. Or you have your every day woman doing the same thing. I’m sure you know a few of women like this. I’m sure you can name at least two. And the men keep falling for it! For those of you who like to pay this position, it will look like fun at first. Trips, shopping sprees, and gifts seem to make it worthwhile being second best, but after awhile your emotions get all involved and you will want more, and more is what he can’t give. Side chicks had their run, but this game is getting old.
Not Listening To Your Intuition– We have what we call intuition. That gut feeling that always tells you when something isn’t quite right. Do we always listen to it? Of course not! We see the red flags and just dismiss them. No, he said that was his mother calling him at three in the morning. It wasn’t another woman. Are you sure about that? If we would listen to our gut, we could avoid so much turmoil.
Getting Too Serious Too Soon– It takes a while to really get to know someone. People move so fast these days, after a few months they are living together and having babies. Moving too fast can cause serious problems. Take your time and really get to know the guy for who he is before you decide to let him meet your children and family or even the spend the night with you. You have to go through some things in order to know if your relationship has legs to stand on. And you will not know that in a matter of just a few weeks or a couple of months. Be mindful of who you let in your life.
Living For Everyone Else– No matter what you do someone will always have an opinion about it. Your mother, boyfriend, hubby, sister; according to everyone else your not living your life right and they know the path that you should go. In 2018 take charge and put your happiness in the forefront. Living your best days the way the world wants you to live them sets yourself up for stress, depression, and a feeling of not being fulfilled. Live for you and make sure you are on your top list of priorities.
Your Exes– Whenever things start looking up. Your feeling good, confidence is high, even lost a few pounds and went on a shopping spree to buy a new wardrobe. You met a nice guy who seems to be a real keeper, and then you get that text message. “Hey. How you been?” The ex. Here he comes trying to worm his way back in. It is so hard to leave the exes alone. You start to think about how good things used to be and he says things can once again be that way. Don’t fall for the okey doke. Remember why you broke up and went your separate ways. Your exes need to stay in 2017. Do not breathe life into something that is dead. He is an ex for a reason.
Let’s make 2018 memorable. Live your life to the fullest and make sure your happiness is a priority.